Staying Hard After You Climax

Staying Hard After You Climax

Why Do Men Get Erections? 

Erections are caused when a man experiences either mental, physical, or sensory stimulation causing a hormonal release from the brain and blood to flow to the chambers of the penis. This blood flow causes the muscles of the penis to become enlarged or engorged, “hardening” the shaft of the sex organ and leading to it becoming erect. Men can experience up to 20 erections a day for a variety of reasons, not all of which are sexual.

Orgasm vs. Ejaculation

When men have sex, there are multiple elements to the experience to consider when taking into account why they get hard, stay hard, and then lose erections. Firstly, the distinction between an orgasm and ejaculation is essential to recognize. 

• An orgasm is a feeling of intense pleasure or euphoria that is experienced from reaching a sexual climax.
• An ejaculation is the expulsion of seminal fluid from the penis. 

These occurrences, however, are not mutually exclusive to one another. Men can experience orgasms without ejaculation, and ejaculations can occur without orgasm. 

The Refractory Period 

An important concept to recognize when discussing the topic of erections in men is the refractory period or the time post orgasm, where it is physiologically very difficult or impossible for a man to achieve an erection or additional orgasm despite physical arousal or external stimulation. 

These periods vary widely between men, ranging anywhere from a few minutes to several hours, and depend on a variety of factors, including:

• Age 
• Biological sex 
• Cardiovascular health
• The presence of certain diseases
• Libido (sex drive)

Tips for Longer-Lasting Sex

When it comes down to it, most men would like to know the secret to staying harder for longer. At the same time, there is no single method that can be done to completely change your sex life and keep your penis erect for hours and hours (you most likely wouldn’t want it to be anyway). Many techniques are available to men who are seeking to improve their ability to maintain an erection for the amount of time they are indulging in a sexual experience. 

Here are 3 Tips for Staying Harder During Sex:

1. Breathe: Breathing doesn’t just have to do with running a marathon or trying to calm down after someone cuts you off in traffic. By focusing on breathing, you can keep blood flowing properly throughout your body, maintain a steady pace, and have a harder erection. Breath play is also something that can intensify the feeling of your orgasms, so remember, deep breaths are your friend!
2. Exercise: Exercising regularly will not only make you look good but also feel good when it’s playtime. Regular moderate exercise helps with blood flow and improves your stamina, mind-body connection, and ability to perform better for longer. The extra reserves of energy you’ll tap into will keep you in the game for as long as necessary, and at the end of the day, that’s what matters. 
3. Foreplay: The time before sex is just as important as the time after sex. Foreplay is beyond necessary for not only getting you in the mood but also keeping you in the mood while you’re doing the deed. Spending time working up to sex is what helps sex feel better, enables you to stay harder, and orgasm stronger than if you were to just jump into things without giving yourself a chance to mentally and physically prepare. 

Maintaining an Erection After Climax

While those tips might sound simplistic, the most obvious answers usually have the best results. Now, those tips usually just address initial hardness and keeping your penis erect for the first round with your partner. For those craving round after round, it takes a bit more finesse, practice, and patience to keep yourself hard even when you’ve climaxed. 

These steps not only include the three above but also require days, weeks, or months of effort toward improving the amount of time it takes to get an erection or keep an erection after you’ve finished. 

Below are 6 Tips on Staying Hard After You Climax:

1. Meditate: A relaxed mind means a calm body and a calm body means you’re more attuned to how you’re feeling and how to keep yourself focused on maintaining an erection. This means relaxing each day and taking the time to center your mind. Now, this isn’t something everyone can do, and most people take years to even get to a state where they can confidently say they’re present and aware. But Rome wasn’t built in a day, nor was that tower between your legs. So sit down, take a deep breath, and start getting your mind right to keep your soldier held at attention for longer when the time comes for him to get in the fight. 

1. Stretch: Circulation and mobility are quintessential to getting, keeping, and maintaining your hardness during and after intimate encounters. Since your penis relies on blood to get it pumped up, without proper blood flow, you’re likely not going to see your floppy disk turned into a hard drive. Keep up with the regular stretching to keep it up for longer. 
2. Kegels: You might think these are only for women, but you’d be mistaken. Kegels are simply the practice of flexing your pelvic floor to train the muscles and improve the brain-body connection to that area. The more they do, the better you get and the tighter it gets. Like anything else, this requires consistency. A little goes a long way, but seeing results will take time. 
3. Toys: Bringing toys in the bedroom is always a fun thing to include in your sexual routine. These can include vibrating rings, insertion toys, or other things that can help you get aroused and stay aroused to keep up with multiple rounds. When you’re worried that you’re done after round one, you can try slipping something some places to give you that extra kick you need to get back at it in a jiffy. 

1. Medications/Supplements: When all else fails, there are medical and herbal options available that can help bring back your erection. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, or other brands are always good options when you want to get hard and stay hard even after climaxing. However, these options are NOT for everyone, and you should always consult a doctor before taking any medications, as they can have severe health-related risks if not handled correctly. Other options include supplements that focus on blood flow and increasing or improving overall testosterone production in the body. These include Ashwagandha, L-Arginine, and L-Citrulline, to name a few. But again, talk to your doctor before incorporating anything into your regimen.
2. Practice: Like everything that means anything in life- practice makes perfect. Take your time in the beginning. Play around with what works for you. Communicate with your partner and keep it light while you explore different methods of trying to get yourself to stay hard after you’ve reached climax. Not everything is going to work right away, and that's okay. If one thing doesn’t work, try another and remember to have fun with it. Sex and especially erectile awareness are not meant to be negative things in your life. Unless you recognize a serious medical issue, give your member a little pat on the head for whatever progress you made and try again another time.